The Coach Who Still Asks

Do you remember your first season? It may have been a LONG time ago… You asked everybody everything. How do you run this drill? How do you handle that parent? What do I do when my best player won't listen? Somewhere along the way the questions got quieter. Experience piled up, the playbook got thicker, and without meaning to, we started coaching from what we know instead of from what we're still learning. It happens to the best of us. It happens especially to the best of us.
Devo:
Solomon had just been handed the biggest job in the nation. He was young, he was following a legendary father, and the whole weight of God's people was now on his shoulders. One night at Gibeon, God appeared to him in a dream and made an offer no one else has ever gotten: "Ask. What should I give you?" (1 Kings 3:5).
Think about what Solomon could have asked for: a long life, wealth, victory over his enemies, a guaranteed winning record. Instead, he admitted the truth: I'm young. I don't know how to do this. Then he asked for a listening heart. The Hebrew literally describes a heart that hears. God was so pleased with that request that He gave Solomon wisdom and poured out blessings he never asked for.
Here's what gets me: Solomon's greatest moment of leadership started with admitting what he didn't know. The wisest king in history became wise by asking. No matter how many seasons you have behind you, you never outgrow that invitation. God isn't waiting for you to have it figured out. He's waiting for you to ask.
Learn it:
This season we're walking through four movements together: Learn, Trust, Serve, and Teach. It all starts here. Growth begins when we stay humble, honest, and ready to learn, and that's as true for the coach as it is for any player. Before you can help anyone else grow, you get to be the one still growing.
Scripture to stand on:
- "So give your servant a receptive heart to judge your people and to discern between good and evil." 1 Kings 3:9 (CSB)
- "Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God — who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly — and it will be given to him." James 1:5 (CSB)
- "When arrogance comes, disgrace follows, but with humility comes wisdom." Proverbs 11:2 (CSB)
Coach's pointers:
- Ask before you plan. Before you write a practice plan or walk into a hard conversation, pause and ask, "Lord, what do I need to see here?"
- Ask one person for input. An assistant, a veteran coach, or your spouse: "What's one thing you see in me that I might be missing?" Then just listen.
- Say "I don't know" out loud this week. It won't cost you respect. It will show your team what a secure leader looks like.
Challenge this week:
If God said to you today, "Ask. What should I give you?", what would you ask for? Write it down. Be honest, even if the first answer is a win on Friday. Then sit with it and ask God to shape the request into what you really need. Close with a prayer you can carry all season:
"Lord, give me a listening heart. I don't want to coach only from what I know. Teach me what You want to show me."
Overtime:
Try the Lectio 365 app from 24-7 Prayer. It offers a short daily guided time of Scripture and prayer, morning and evening, perfect for the drive to practice or the few minutes before the house wakes up.
Win the Day,
Jenny
P.S. If you want to build a Growth Mindset culture on your team this season? Humility, coachability, perseverance: I have a full set of team resources, with versions that fit public school settings. Reply anytime and I'll get them to you.
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